Nick Averbuj

Clinical Psychologist Registrar

“Interestingly, the best predictor of therapy “working” is not actually the type/style of therapy that you’re given… It’s not even how skilled or expereinced your psychologist is… It’s actually just whether you share a good rapport with your psychologist. And logically, we can see why: if you don’t like and trust your psychologist, then you’re not going to be as open or committed to the therapy process.

So, instead of just telling you about my training and experience, I’m going to talk about the way I approach therapy and what you can expect from working with me. And if that seems to click with you, then we’re already heading in the right direction.

My colleagues describe my process as “a psychotherapy model that employs a psychoanalytic and person-centred approach”. What this means for you is that:

  1. I generally apply a longer-term approach to therapy: in the vast majority of people, it’s rare that a meaningful shift in the way you approach life can be created in less than 6 weeks.
  2. If it’s relevant, we’ll touch on how past events or feelings have contributed to the way you now approach the world; understanding the whole story is often important in making sustainable changes.
  3. I recognise that you are a complex combination of your past, your perceptions, your feelings and experiences; this means your therapy will be an individually tailored process.

Connected to that, I have experience in formal treatments (e.g. CBT, DBT, Schema Therapy) and these are all employed within the above framework, as needed.

The people who have found working with me have had a range of symptoms (anxiety, sadness, demotivation, low self-esteem, excessive drinking, drug use etc…); a lot of the clients I have been successful with in the past describe things like:

  • They are conflicted about needing to make a change;
  • They have lost a sense of identity/meaning (or are struggling to find one);
  • They feel worried and can’t pinpoint why,
  • They’re afraid they’re addicted to a substance (or way of life);
  • They have strong feelings they can’t control (but want to);

I mainly work one-on-one, but also find that couples and families respond to this deeper way of approaching therapy as learning about the unconscious processes that are driving your reactions is strongly correlated with creating lasting change.

In our first session, I’ll ask some questions and we’ll talk about what’s been bothering you and what you’d like to get from therapy. From there, our sessions will be about what I call “moving the psychological furniture”. Specifically, that means becoming aware of the underlying feelings and assumptions you have so that they no longer drive you to certain reactions or feelings that cause you distress.

Instead, there might also be a number of simple practical things I can suggest that can have a great effect on your mood and sense of fulfilment. So, we might also just spend four sessions together, if those tools or a new perspective is all you need to resolve your issues.

Lastly, when you book in with me, I’ll give you a quick call before we meet. I do this so that I can get an idea of where someone is at and their reason for seeing me; because it allows you to get a feel for me, and, it also allows me to see if you need more urgent support than our upcoming appointment can provide.

I look forward to working with you.

I work with one on one, with children, couples, groups and families.

Nick has experience helping people with the following issues:

Childhood trauma Anxiety and obsessive compulsive disorder
Relationship difficulties Life transition difficulties
Low self-esteem Narcissism
Parenting Self-harm or suicidality
Separation/divorce Lack of motivation
Blended families Attachment issues
Adjustment disorders Child Counselling
Depression Grief and Loss
Eating disorders Personality disorders